THE SEEKER'S MIND

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   ...I've been caught up in the creative mind of people so bad that even though grass was greener in my backyard, I wanted it at my feet....


            IN THE SEEKER'S MIND

Growing up in one of the dilapidated buildings in my community, luxury and riches were things I only experienced vicariously, through the lives of some neighbors’ kids, or the ones my mother and father claimed as “uncles” or “brothers” from some ancestral line. I lived also, somehow in those worlds because of the books I read and the movies I stood on tiptoes to watch through the open windows of kind neighbours.


The beauty of it all wasn’t just living through their stories but the hope it gave me. I dreamt of a future where the clapping of rusted roofing sheets and the songs of birds and crowing cocks wouldn’t be what woke me or my children. Hence I went seeking Him and His Kingdom,for every other thing to be added, including my dreams and hoping to live freely like the birds and meet my destiny changers.


I fantasize only about those “destiny helpers” from books and Nigerian movies, the rich brothers of school colleagues with names like Daryl or Romeo who love their sister's poor friend or strangers who, by fate, meet you at the village junction and decide to change your story. I had grand expectations of these helpers that even when I called God my Destiny Helper/changer at dawn, I also asked Him to send my destiny helper at dusk.


6 years ago, perhaps after I had fantasized and prayed to God about my Destiny helper, I met a man named Stanley in a printing shop. I was being my usual self( a talker and a funny girl). The sequence of events felt like the poor girl’s story in those movies, the one spotted among her peers and chosen, this time not because she was the finest but because she talked and argued a lot. However, since Stanley didn’t arrive in a white agbada, stepping out of a posh car, I was partially blinded to what he was doing or who he was. 


The man,Stanley, believed in me so much that he blocked the sun from blinding me and the sea from drowning me. When I finished school and said I wanted to start a business, he was my distant Customer. When I explained the financial limitations being the reason school wasn't my next move, he spoke of scholarships. When I said I’d lost interest in many things, he sent me books and walked me out of the valley and shadow of death. He saw potential in me that I couldn’t see in myself, and was bent on helping me see and reach for it.


Gratitude has always been part of me, so I thanked God for Brother Stanley, and Stanley for everything he did and then kept asking God for a destiny changer. Until this year (the reason you are reading this now.)

At the beginning of this year, I decided to change many things. My birthday was on my day of birth, my age was double of a double, and so I said it was my rebirth year. I was going to be born again, not in the Christian sense but like how it happened in 2002. 


In February, he sent me a link to a writing competition. I was reluctant as always because I’ve never believed I’m a writer or good writer and talk more of joining competitions. But this was my rebirth year, so I decided to change that mindset and do something. When I opened the link, I didn't only see a writing competition but found an opportunity, a door that had the key to my rebirth journey. 


There's something about the universe that doesn't only make the small grains of rice multiply in size when waltzing in hot water , or gari rise when drowned but also makes a wingless man fly only if he believed he could. It aligns in your favour so much that, when you need something, you just have to believe and take the first step. If it's meant for you , it comes right away. If It's not , it leads you to the next. (That's also the way I viewed things since it's my rebirth year).


When I walked through that door, I made the best of the first year of forging a new path and rewriting my story, not just because of the opportunities but for the people I’ve met and the other interconnected doors that have opened. Everything I am today is because of God, the universe, and a man I met in 2018, who saw something in me when I thought I was only being funny and a talkative.


Most of the connections and great people I’ve met are because he encouraged me to start writing. The friends and networks I built in university happened because he convinced me to go to university. He was even able to convince me to attend a different university than the one I had wanted and that opened different doors too.


Stanley “changed” my destiny, not because I was the one whose arms he found comfort, or bosom he found rest, not because I was his future wife, not because I was family, but simply because he believed in my potential and a future I couldn’t yet envision, and because fate brought him my way and we both decided our destiny. “OUR DESTINY”, because the Universe also used me to teach him the virtue of patience.


I believe in destiny helpers, but I no longer seek the ones written about in books or shown in movies. I’ve realized everyone I meet,whether good or bad, is part of my fate, and what happens from that meeting is my destiny. If they stop me from pursuing my dreams, they change my destiny, if they push me to aim higher, they change my destiny. (WE ARE OUR DESTINY AND PART OF OUR DESTINY)







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Dear Seeker,

You Are "seeking" for a destiny helper, but in your seeking mind And Heart, you await a man/woman stepping out of a posh vehicle,with a stack of cash ready to change the family's story, that might be your fate, just like you saw in the movies, it might not also be, but know and understand that your fate is meeting the people you meet, everyone including those who hurt you, but destiny is what you make from that meeting, take the lessons and strive on, make your mistakes and learn. You are part of your destiny, and we all have different destinies and destinations. 


Do not get caught up in the creative mind of people that when grass is greener at your feet, you would want it in your palms.......


P.S.80% of the people I know today is because of a man I met in 2018. For that, he is now not just the man I met in 2018, but the destiny changer/helper I met in 2018












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